5.1.11 Adam News & Info May 1, 2011 11:09:23 GMT -5
Post by Coconutgrove0 on May 1, 2011 11:09:23 GMT -5
Mom says that Adam has always been a ray of sunshine. Friends pre-Idol, Idol, and post-Idol all talk about how genuine and nice he is. He seems to have always been a "people magnet." Therefore, my first conclusion is that Adam's basic personality is kind, sweet, giving and positive. That is gonna be his "default" position in a situation.
From time to time, "nice" people start to feel like they are being taken advantage of. That they are not allowed to be cranky, in a bad mood, or anti-social. That they are not allowed to say "no." That they are not being "genuine" when they are nice at times when they don't feel like it. During those times, they may vow to themselves, and others, that they are gonna be more "honest" and "real."
But, they don't, then, turn into curmudgeons. They give themselves permission to not always be sunshine and light, relieving the pressure they feel from others, and the pressure they put on themselves. Then, having that permission, they DECIDE to be nice, anyway. Like I said, it is their default. It is their natural state of being.
Adam may now be giving himself permission to be less than gracious when his private time is invaded by paps or stalkers. He may refuse a few autographs, a few pics, and he may give the invaders a glare and then walk on. He may be more apt to call someone out for clearly inappropriate behavior.
I don't think that Adam will substantially change how he relates to people. 1) That is naturally the way he is. That IS his "real." 2) That way of relating is successful. People are automatically drawn to that genuine kindness and interaction, like bees to honey. He is a keen observer of people, and he can see how effective it is to create allies and supporters. 3) Being warm and giving feels good! The positive creates more positivity. It is self-reinforcing. 4) Adam is committed to carving a permanent place for himself, and he is savvy. A little snark once in a while as a tension reliever may be okay, but he is not going to cut off his nose to spite his face. Being positive is a way to promote himself. He has seen how successful that has always been for him.
I predict, therefore, that Adam will remain Adam, and we will see little change in his interaction with others. He may be a bit more HBIC when people are up in his grill. He may be a little less tolerant of fools. But, he will remain apple pie Adam, bringing sunshine with him wherever he goes.
Oh cassie, don't know what to say, you write and think so nicely, wisely and compationately. Thank you. I just love your reasoning here.